Why You Need an Elite Team of Moms

PART I

Moms matter! Finding our own team, squad or tribe matters too. Raising athletes and trying to keep our shit together can be lonely and feel mega-competitive in this dog-eat-dog world of youth sports. We can feel judged, inadequate and exhausted. Some days we are just trying to survive.

Our days, nights and weekends revolve around our athlete’s schedules. We are taxi drivers, snack packers, laundry supervisors, time managers and we have the t-shirts to prove it. Our social media posts will convince you and maybe ourselves we wouldn’t have it any other way, but is that what we really want? Past the guilt and expectation of what we think we should be as moms, we need something of our own.

Winning

We don’t need everyone to like us, but it is important to have a group of people who like and respect us; a group we can call our team. Connection is one of the four basic universal needs that allows us to live our best life. These relationships boost our sense of belonging and give us purpose beyond the lines of baseball fields or basketball courts. 

Good friendships are just plain good for our health. Strong social connections reduce the risk of many significant health problems and help us live longer. Who wouldn’t want less stress and more confidence in their life?  The right friendships motivate us, inspire us and challenge us to be better humans. We also gain the realization that we are not the only household on the crazy train.

These are the women that have your back; women that ‘get it.’ Judgment is left at the door and we can be our authentic selves. These ladies support us through all our drama and don’t mind our smart-ass sarcasm. They send the best Amazon finds and steamy Netflix series. They help drive your kids to hell and back for events and practices. Their door is always open and their cooler is always stocked with beer or maybe a white claw.

While I love my athlete and he will always be my world, I also want to model a life with strong relationships and healthy boundaries. I want my child to learn how to find balance in his own life when athletics (or a career) can dictate time and energy. He is relying on me to show him how, without losing my mind.

The Real Team Moms

Bottom line, I have some real clutch women on my team. I hope you do too. We can help each other be part of something bigger than our kids athletic schedules and live happier, healthier lives. Here’s a middle finger to the chaos that fuels this real team mom life. It’s not always easy, but having an elite team of moms behind you might just be the “good game” pat on the ass you need.

• Are you looking for your mom team or do you have amazing ladies that have your back? What has been your experience building your mom lineup? Let’s get real, not everyone makes the roster! 

• Watch for Part II of Why You Need An Elite Team of Moms . It will hold insight and suggestions on how to find those elite players you are searching for.

#loudandsometimesproud

(1.)To Flourish, Humans Are Motivated by Four Universal Needs | Psychology Today

(2.)Friendships: Enrich your life and improve your health – Mayo Clinic

(3.) The Health Benefits Of Finding Your Tribe | Psychology Today